About me

Hello. My name is Thomas (“Tom”) Lai. I am a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), embodiment teacher and learning specialist who helps adults who feel held back by fear, despair, anxiety, shame or self-doubt – and those navigating a crisis of meaning or identity – live more fully in the face of what we can't control.

I've been fascinated by the human condition for as long as I can remember. A personal crisis sparked my own healing journey, combining therapy with contemplative practices which continues today. What I've learned so far is that healing and growth can happen when there's a space that's safe enough to hold it. And while we may not be able to erase all our trauma, we can relate to these experiences differently and meet life with self-compassion, love and courage.

My practice is trauma-informed, culturally sensitive, anti-oppressive & liberatory, and rooted in the principles of existential-humanistic psychology. I am also informed by both Eastern and Western traditions, drawing on a decade of personal practice in mindfulness and meditation.

Having lived in the in-between spaces as a queer, 1.5-generation Chinese-Canadian with Indian ancestry, I understand how challenging it can be to navigate intersecting identities, cultures, and finding a sense of belonging. I strive to create a safe and welcoming space for people of all cultural backgrounds and offer 2SLGBTQIA+ affirming care. You don’t have to look like me to work with me. I will hold space for all parts of you – even the ones others can’t see.

Before becoming a therapist, I worked in adult learning and development, designing learning experiences for students, teams, and internationally trained professionals. I've also coached transitional age youth and graduates navigating life and career transitions. These were all rewarding experiences that taught me how to meet people where they are, with patience, compassion and sensitivity to their unique needs and lived experiences.